Standing still…

by daniellesantos29

In life we make many choices, some bad choices, some really bad choices and some great choices.

What we don’t realize is that it is these choices we make that impact and create our circumstances. When a certain choice was made and it created despair and chaos , we often look up in the sky and say God why! Why is this happening to me? with blame we hold him to Simply because we made a blind choice, because we have convinced ourselves that the choice we made Was right, and what we needed when in fact we knew deep down it was not what we truly desired.

All because we were not being true to ourselves!!

But … It don’t have to be that way! If you stop standing still and get out of your own way and realize that you already have the power deep within to change your circumstances, to reframe your destiny and stand in your truth simply by just believing in yourself and being true to yourself.

Listen…..

Everyday you wake up you get a second chance, a second chance at life, a second chance to make new choices to create your own destiny, to be anything you desire to be.

The only thing standing in your way is You!!

©Danielle Santos Life coach

Self love

by daniellesantos29

Everything in the journey of life is placed in our paths to bring us to our higher selves , our true selves. It is a lesson in which make us stronger and more self aware of what we truly want in this lifetime.

Most times on this journey we don’t see the positive in our life’s lessons, the situations that cross our paths, but truth is it is the universes way of bringing us to our higher self, teaching us to love our self first unconditionally.

We don’t always see that and many won’t unless they go deep within to find their inner peace, their truth and their true beauty that each and everyone of us have within ourselves. That is the only way to spiritual Enlightment.

Love! Love is what we all are looking for but many of us believe that you find that love with another person. Truth is we must love ourselves first, and to stop trying to prove to anyone that we are worthy of their love. The greatest love of all is at the center of our being, finding that love and harnessing that love is what sets you free.

Shine your light with self love and all the right people will be placed in front of you with that same unconditional love. I know the journey to self love is one of the hardest journeys you will ever be on, because you have to deprogram every single nasty thing anyone has ever made you believe about yourself, but it will bring you to light, your light! It will set you free!

© Danielle Santos Life coach, Life experiences, self empowerment, self awareness

From darkness to the light.

by daniellesantos29

© Danielle Santos ~ Life coach, life experiences self Empowerment

Not everyone’s journey through the darkness is the same but, for myself it was losing everything behind the wrong man.

Seven years ago I felt I was on top of the world. I was a single parent of two boys, living in a six bedroom home, my work life was great with great people in my life. I thought it couldn’t get any better then that, but then I met this man, we became good friends and told each other everything. He seemed so great with a beautiful heart, until…….. Yup you guessed it? We started dating.

One day approximately three weeks after we started dating, I was at work. He calls me during my lunch break and informs me that he has moved some of his stuff into my house. I was baffled and completely saying to myself WTF!!! Who does that? A huge red flag I definitely ignored. I remembered saying to him omg we never talked about this or even asked my boys if they would be ok with this, but still I let it slide. Immediately upon him moving in he took control of everything in my household. My children, me, cooking, everything. I know I say it to myself now that I gave him that control, but when I was put in this situation I felt weak and afraid to speak up and use my voice. Because I did not use my voice and took a stand he felt he had the power. The power over me, my home and my children. That’s when the fun began, he started verbally abusing each and every one of us, it got to the point he was begining to put his hands on me. Now I would fight back hell yeah there was no way I was allowing anyone to put their hands on me but still I wouldn’t let him go, it was like he had a hold on me. After the fights he would come to me and apologize with his famous words ” Im sorry baby. I love you and I need you! ” And just like that I would forgive him. Three months in the cops were called to my house twice creating a scene and we had to move out of our home to a two bedroom apartment, lost my car and became completely dependent on his car. He would pick me up from work when the boys were at their dads and take me out for drinks which I must say I paid for. One night we got into yet another fight, and this time put me in the car and took me miles away from home and left me in a mall parking lot it was about 11:30- 12:00 am, I had to call my 70 year old mom to come and get me. Another flag I did nothing about!! I forgave him like always, but this time I had a plan to move in with my mom and leave him. That’s exactly what I did two weeks later, but……. That didn’t last long! Nope I found out I was pregnant with twins, it was like holy hell!!! I remember saying to myself in that moment ” Omg I’m never gonna be able to do this on my own and with two other children”. Needless to say I went back, feeling like a weak incompetent woman. After the twins were born I didn’t go back to work I went back to school instead and took up law, during my outings to school I noticed a lot of strange activity within my home. I started finding other woman’s clothes and little pieces of jewelry in my home. I became very suspicious and started investigating on my own. So one day I decided to leave my phone behind on record underneath my couch and I swear not even five minutes after leaving there was a female in my house, the sad part is it was my upstairs neighbor, who mind you had a man of her own that she lived with. This went on for about one year until I got the nerve up to confront her the unorthodox way. Instead of actually confronting her I did the unthinkable I befriended her, yup that’s right! I did.. I would bring her around him and I just so I could see them both uncomfortable, it was like a thrill for me but it brought with it unbearable sleepless nights of trying to catch them in action, In fact it was complete agony. The fighting got worse both hitting each other to a point where we both started saying one of us are either going to end up in jail or worse dead. That’s when I needed to do some soul searching, I starting reading everything on meditation and empowerment on how to take back my power. And I did just that! I took back my power and got rid of him once and for all, this time for good. The moral is we are only as powerless as we allow ourselves to be. We stay silent because we are afraid, finding yourself, being true to yourself rids you of that fear it brings you to the light and forever no more be silent. ©Danielle SantoSantos

#betrulyyou # self empowerment #speaking up

The journey continues

by daniellesantos29

(DAY # 2)

This has got to be the hardest thing I have ever done! Addiction is no joke. I knew this would be hard but, OMG I was convinced I had more mind control then this geez. Trying to shut the brain off is nearly impossible, I keep telling myself later you will smoke like putting it off but, the thoughts of smoking seems to be getting stronger and stronger. I am definitely starting to feel like a crazy person who argues with themselves out loud. I will not give up! If anyone can do this I can too, with self encouragement , gaining mind control, and determination I will beat this addiction once and for all.

by daniellesantos29


Are you struggling with the fear of abandonment?  here are five ways to identify and overcome the fear of abandonment.

** Fear of abandonment is a primal fear, it is involuntary, it is not something you cause, it is an emotional or physical impact that stems form either childhood or prior relationships. You can overcome the fear of abandonment by accepting this fear and learning to unconditionally love yourself and gain understanding that fear is a part of being human… *** Below are the five ways to overcoming the fear of abandonment that will help you recognize where it comes from and how you can overcome it… *********** 
} First you must recognize that you have the fear of abandonment notice the signs: are you clingy and then pull away from your partner? Do you have the intense fear of your partner cheating on you? Do you have extreme jealousy? And are you possessive?? 
} Second you need to figure out where that fear comes from by asking yourself these questions: What happened ? Did it come from my childhood? Did it come from a past relationship? How did it make me feel? And what about it made me feel abandoned??
} Third figure out  what it is in your current relationship that triggers that fear of abandonment write it down  in detail and be specific when the answer comes up you will surely recognize it.
} Fourth identify how it manifests and once you can identify the cause write down these questions and answer them honestly.: What were your thoughts?: What were your emotions?: How do you react when those thoughts and emotions consume you?: Do you get irritable and panic?: Do you get clingy and then push your partner away?
} Fifth now that you figured out where the fear originated own it as your problem and not your partners, understand the fear and what it is that triggers it . When you get that thought of abandonment detach yourself from that thought recognize it and change the way you react to that feeling and rationally decide if the feeling is real or an imagined emotion.

»» Sometimes we become dependent on our partner doing anything just so they don’t leave that we lose ourselves in isolation of fear causing our own fear of abandonment to sabotage our relationship which then keeps us from being happy.. with recognizing our fears we are able to control our thought s and learn to love ourselves unconditionally .

My journey to stop smoking without drugs.

by daniellesantos29

Okay, so here is to day one of my journey. I set a date to quit which was today 1/28/19 and yup you guessed it!! A complete fail 👎☹👎. I had my last cigarette at 9pm last night 🌙⏰💤💤 all I did do during the night was dream about was a smoking a cigarette, woke up this morning I felt great about starting my day without one, until that little voice in my head was saying one more Danielle! One more! The thoughts 🤔💭 of having that one more cigarette consumed me. But, I’m not giving up! I will keep trying everyday until that little demon is gone from me. I will keep everyone updated day by day till I reach that goal!!